Older/Younger

[Jazzy]

My girlfriend has been dating a guy that's older than she is by 20 years. I was kind of shocked when I met him yesterday as he looks (to me) more like her father than her boyfriend. I mean to each their own but I wouldn't date a person that's that much older than I am.



Questions:



Is the person you're dating older than you? If so, how much older?



Is the person you're dating younger than you? If so, how much younger?



If you're engaged or married, the same questions apply.

 

[Chatsie]

Well, none of those questions apply to me, but...

there's no way I'd date someone if there was that

kind of age gap between us - but as you say, to

each their own.



I do think though that the older you get, the less it matters.

 

[Rogue]

People get all bent out of shape over this whole age thing.

Age is just a number.

One should look at the people involved and see if they are happy with each other or not.

Unless some one is being with someone underage where is it our concern if they say they are happy together ?

I'm sure we all know many people who are within a few years of each other that are so unhappy they want out.

So for me its the enjoyment and happiness that's important to me in a relationship and not a number.

 

[Evil Eye]

Mental age over physical age.



(Though I admit 20 years is quite a lot...)

 

[Jazzy]

Age matters to me since one day I want to start a family. I have always dated men around the same age as I am. The oldest man I dated was 5 years older than I at the time. I have never dated a man younger than I.

 

[Flurry]

My girlfriend has been dating a guy that's older than she is by 20 years. I was kind of shocked when I met him yesterday as he looks (to me) more like her father than her boyfriend. I mean to each their own but I wouldn't date a person that's that much older than I am.



Questions:



Is the person you're dating older than you? If so, how much older?



Is the person you're dating younger than you? If so, how much younger?



If you're engaged or married, the same questions apply.

No, and no to your questions.



However, I really think the age shouldn't matter. Happiness can be found with whoever. Now if you're trying to go for some teenager under 18. Then that's just where its wrong. Now there be some out there who will find the whole age issue to be a problem. Say like for example if the person has kids around your age.

 

[beowulf]

age is just a number.............being happy is more important



person who became my wife was 10 years younger.....we were together 18 years

current partner is 18 months older than me

 

[Rogue]

Mental age over physical age.



(Though I admit 20 years is quite a lot...)

That's because people make it so.

If they are happy, who gives a damm ?

 

[seasidemike]

I would like to think that it should not matter, but if my daughter came home with a guy twice her age, I would have to kill him..

she can find happiness somewhere else

 

[Jazzy]

I could care less who others get involved with. For me, it's a personal choice. As I stated earlier, I would not get involved with a much older man. I am still young enough to want to start a family one day. I wouldn't want my child to be in his twenties and his dad in his seventies. I stick with men that are around the same age as me or just a few years older. Again, whatever makes other people happy is none of my business.

 

[JasonBegheFanGirl]

I am married to a man who is 9 years older than me.

However, my mother in law is younger than my father in law by about 18 years and have been happily married for almost 33 years.

So no, to me, age is just a number and really doesn't matter.

 

[Nebulous]

I've been with someone much older than me and she was just as immature as the 18 year old I dated before her.

I dont mind an age difference unless I plan to spend the rest of my life with that person.

 

[Evil Eye]

That's because people make it so.

If they are happy, who gives a damm ?

You kinda answered your own question: those people.

 

[Shini]

I am 19 and my husband is 21.

 

[Cranos]

i think the older you get, the less age matters. The oldest girl I've been with was 23, but I was 17 and still in high school at the time, so mentally there was a big difference.

 

[Loucifer]

I've been with my other half for just over 6 years and he is 13 years older than me. Age doesn't matter, all that matters is that your personalities work well together - and that's hard to find. If you find someone that you click with, then hold on to them. Happiness is all that matters, not what others think.

 

[seasidemike]

I think it depends on where you are in life.. if you are a mature adult (25 years +) then it does not matter so much, but if you are still a young adult (18-25), then it does matter.