People You Don’t Want to Meet: Two Faced Backstabbers

[Jazzy]

We go through life meeting lots of people. Some make you happy, some make you smile, some can be counted and then there are some whom you would rather not have ever met. There are lots of reasons that would make you want to avoid meeting certain people like they are mean or evil. Mainly though I am talking about personality types which are difficult to deal with and just better to be avoided all together. Sometimes it takes some time before we realize a person we know is on the bad list. Some of us take longer than others to connect the dots.

Horrible Personality Number One : Two Faced Back Stabbers



Two faced back stabbers are public enemy number 1. They are nice to you and then turn around and say the worse things ever about. We all are polite to most people and might be inclined to say mean things when we are with people whom we trust but the TFBS personality usually does this all the time and have another agenda.



Catching One



Just by observing them you can find them, they say they hate someone and then they turn around and are super nice to them. You think they are best friends with someone else and then they turn around and gossip about them. Some two faced backstabbers are smart and do these things subtly but if you concentrate you can usually catch them red handed.



How to deal with backstabbers



First of all you have to understand that you are not immune to them, just because they act like they respect you and swear they would never gossip about you don’t beleive them. The best way to deal with them is to stay away from them. The problem is that sometimes you might not have that option. Once you have been backstabbed you always have the option of confrontation, people who feel the need to act that way are usually cowards and can be scared off by just telling them that you know what they’re doing, of course they will deny but it will stop them for some time. I find that the best way is to not tell them anything, not to get close and to keep all conversations to a minimum of small talk. Never ever go down to their level and backstab back, that’s just petty not to mention makes you a TFBS. Avoid private time with them if you can too, be cordial and polite but don’t get sucked into the little soap operas that seem to always unfold around them. Stay away from situations where that person gossips and make it clear that you don’t want to listen to them talking about someone else in a way that is not nice. If you can’t stay away ignore them and never agree with them or offer your opinion on someone else or they will turn around, twist your words and use them against you somehow, they are double crossers by definition.



How do you deal with the TFBS people in your life?

 

[Locke]

If these TFBS as you call them were all cut off from society, there'd be more of them than whoever was left.



Many people view someone extending social niceties as being a backstabber when they later find themselves a target of disrespect by the same person.

 

[DrLeftover]

When it comes to that point, I just remind them of what they are dealing with in me.



That usually suffices.