Ugh Dad!!!

[Madyy]

Okay, I don't know what I'm supposed to do!! My parents got a divorce last year and my dad recently got remarried. The divorce didn't bother me much...he's not my real dad (stepdad...but he did adopt me when I was like...5 or so haha) and he ticked me off majorly during the months leading up to the divorce, so I was kind of happy about it. I have 5 brothers and the two oldest boys are my full brothers and the other three are half. The older two boys are on the same boat as me. The three of us don't spend weekends at his house like the youngest three. Only time I ever stayed at his house was last October when the three of us older ones went just because he was taking us to Six Flags. The two older boys have been back there the week they got married (all 5 boys went...I was in Kentucky lol) and I think they went again because my mom made them...not sure. Anyway, I've gotten out of any time they want me to go somewhere with him and his wife because I babysit most weekdays and most weekends. The only thing that really pisses me off isn't that he got remarried and stuff, but it's who he got remarried to. His new wife turned 21 in February of this year...he turned 35 in March. I'm not sure what really makes me so mad, but that's one of the reasons, I know. Another reason is that he just tries to buy me and the older two of my brothers, like with Six Flags. Any time he comes to town, he takes us to the movies and stuff. Me and the two make fun of his little wife and call her a baby and stuff because she freakin acts like a baby and she needs to grow up. I've been ignoring him...took them both off my friends list on Facebook...ignored them when they tried to add me back...he's been texting me nonstop for the past 30 minutes and I think that's what ticked off this little rant...he kept on asking what he did wrong and why I don't talk to him and stuff and I replied with 1-2 word answers when I felt like it and he was all like you're still my little girl and inside (I didn't say this to him) I was like first of all, I'm not yours, and second of all, I'm 17, I'm not little anymore. I told my mom how I felt about him and she agreed...of course.

But she asked me why I wouldn't talk to him and stuff and I said that he's like a freakin pedophile and stuff and I didn't want to talk to him.



Hm...I think I feel better now. XD Had to type that out somewhere.

 

[Jazzy]

I don't like to give people advice regarding family matters. The only thing I will say is that the more you ignore him, the more he's going to keep bugging you for answers.

 

[Cranos]

The question you should ask yourself is if you want him completely out of your life. If you don't, then you should at least tell him why you're mad.

 

[FTWrath]

You seem very hypocritical. His wife needs to grow up yet you wont talk to your father because he married a 21 year old. They're both grown people, adults. Even if he isn't your real father he still took it upon himself to take place of one. Obviously he still cares. Ever think that maybe he's not trying to 'buy you' over because he wants to but because he feels like he has to since you're not appreciative of all he's done for you.

Yeah, they're divorced but he's still going out of his way to make you and your brothers happy because he took than responsibility upon himself 12 years ago when he could walk away and pretend like you don't exist. He takes you to the movies.. really... because he wants to spend time with you. My dad takes me to the movies, I'm 20 and I appreciate it, and don't look at it as if he wants to buy me over.

I'm sorry but you seem very immature. It's not your fault the marriage between him and your mother didn't pan out. That's their business. He's trying to be the responsible father, you're just being the immature teenager. Like most teenagers it seems you have no sense of respect because if you did you would see how this is emotionally impacting your 'step' father.