Your last relationship

[Jazzy]

What red flags in your last relationship did you miss until it was too late?

 

[CommanderMadi]

I do not understand the question. What do you mean by red flags?

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[Nebulous]

She didn't trust me even though I never gave her a reason not to trust me.  Now I realize that guilty people accuse the innocent (me, in this case) when THEY are the one doing wrong.

 

[Bluezone777]

I do not understand the question. What do you mean by red flags?

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Red flags means in this case, warning signs that there is something wrong with the person you are with such as behavior that suggests the other is cheating or simply covering something up that would likely change your opinion of them and/or your desire to be with them if you knew about it.

 

[Feeblemind]

This would be the guy I dated before my husband. A couple of things. First, he was VERY attached to the fact that he thought I had money...because my brother is wealthy (made his money in plastics business). He figured he would be set if he hooked with me. Took me a while to wise up to that.
The BIG flag was when I was cued in to why he had very serious scarring on his one arm. He was always very vague about how they happened.
Let me stop here and say this guy was more invested in the relationship than me. To me he was just a diversion. No one to be serious about. One day his brother asked to talk with me alone. So, over coffee he told me that the guy was abusive to is ex wife. Got the scars when her dog attacked him while he was beating on his wife. Brother pretty much told me to walk away, fast. He did not have to tell me twice.

 

[Raven]

The guy liked to party to much, binge drinking etc

 

[seasidemike]

Her total possessiveness
I couldn't breath

 

[Icetex]

never been relationship :foreveralone:

 

[Nebulous]

Hmm it seems I missed everything.......

That just means you're really trusting and don't focus on negativity.

 

[Dee]

Just that I was young--though not too young--and we were kind of in different places in our lives. We're still friends now, but at the time I was in high school/going into college and I had a lot of trauma in my life that wasn't meshing well. I'm just glad we were able to remain friends.

 

[Nebulous]

Re: RE: Your last relationship

Just that I was young--though not too young--and we were kind of in different places in our lives. We're still friends now, but at the time I was in high school/going into college and I had a lot of trauma in my life that wasn't meshing well. I'm just glad we were able to remain friends.

That's great that you can remain friends. Seems rare for people to be able to do that.

The only ex I'm civil with (or even have contact with) is my baby mama

 

[Dee]

Just that I was young--though not too young--and we were kind of in different places in our lives.  We're still friends now, but at the time I was in high school/going into college and I had a lot of trauma in my life that wasn't meshing well.  I'm just glad we were able to remain friends.

That's great that you can remain friends.  Seems rare for people to be able to do that.

The only ex I'm civil with (or even have contact with) is my baby mama

Well, he's told me time and time again that he still loves me, and that sometimes it hurts too much. I've never tried to lead him on, flirt with him, be intimate after our break up because I have some serious issues that I have to have dealt with before I get into a relationship with anyone and he knows it. I make that clear, and I also make it clear that if he can't handle being my friend, then he needs to do what's best for him. We've been off and on friends a few times because of his feelings for me, but he's said that it just hurts even more NOT being my friend because we're so compatible in a platonic way. We like a lot of the same things, laugh a lot, and just enjoy each other's company.

 

[Nebulous]

Hmm, seems like he'll be crushed if you ever get with a new guy though.

 

[Dee]

Hmm, seems like he'll be crushed if you ever get with a new guy though.

Lol, he doesn't have to worry about that. I'm in no place to be with anyone and I don't see it happening for a long time, if ever.