Your partner's salary?

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Do you care how much your romantic partner makes (in terms of income)? Is that important to you?

If you aren't in a relationship, would you care about their salary if you did get into a relationship one day?

 

[PGen98]

Not in a relationship, but I wouldn't care.

 

[dorkygay_ dorkygay_]

well lets just say he earns alot more than me....

lovetherelationship, but the money.....

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Mine makes less that me (which doesn't matter to me) but he does contribute. He pays all the utilities (power, electricity, gas, garbage, water, internet, etc) and buys groceries. That helps me out big time! He also makes dinner 99% of the time, which I appreciate!

 

[McConnaughay]

Mine makes less that me (which doesn't matter to me) but he does contribute. He pays all the utilities (power, electricity, gas, garbage, water, internet, etc) and buys groceries. That helps me out big time! He also makes dinner 99% of the time, which I appreciate!

What does that leave you to pay for?

 

[McConnaughay]

My wife makes a little less than I do, but not by too much. We intentionally try and keep her with a smaller schedule and a more laid-back job because she has some health issues and I don't want her feeling like she has to overdo it.

 

[Black Angel]

Do you care how much your romantic partner makes (in terms of income)? Is that important to you?

If you aren't in a relationship, would you care about their salary if you did get into a relationship one day?

Nope.

What was important to me was his personality, intelligence, how he carries and sees himself, (if you don't love or believe in yourself, how can you expect me to do the same?) his sense of humor, the way he treated others, the way he treated me and our friendship. He is my best friend, and I have always wanted to grow from being friends, to best friends, and going from there and we did. We've been together for so long and we basically came from the ground up on basic means, and we grew together.. both financially and physically. I didn't care about height or looks either.. I figured that by focusing on the most important traits, that everything else would fall into place. So the fact that his is very tall, very handsome and is a big, giant teddy bear is just a bonus.

Anyway, I was 19 and out of high school (I was a Summer baby but I was 18 when I graduated) and he was 22 and we were both working at the same job. So me being 19 and demanding that he makes 6 figures at 22 is not only unrealistic, but it would make me sound like a prostitute out to use some poor dude for his money, and from what I had seen with others who took this approach, the man in that financial position usually responds by treating them like one.

Like attracts like as they say..

 

[DrLeftover]

I had worked for the state full time for on the order of 15 years.

When my wife moved into the state and took a part time job as a special ed teacher, she made more per year than I did.


I was fine with it.

 

[MrDawn]

I had worked for the state full time for on the order of 15 years.

When my wife moved into the state and took a part time job as a special ed teacher, she made more per year than I did.


I was fine with it.

My ex wife went to college and I never did. She worked a total of 7 months out of the entire 11 years we were together. In Florida I had a job making 12 dollars an hour, but she got a job at a clinic working for a specialist and she made way more than I ever did. While she was good at making money when she worked, she would not ever keep a job. She hated working and used the excuse that because we had kids, that I owed her.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

What does that leave you to pay for?

Mortgage & homeowners insurance which is far more expensive than the utilities.

 

[Dee]

Do you care how much your romantic partner makes (in terms of income)? Is that important to you?

If you aren't in a relationship, would you care about their salary if you did get into a relationship one day?

I care that they can afford life for themselves. I don't need a rich partner, but someone who could comfortably live on their own and not be reliant on me. I would assume they'd expect the same from me. My dad always told me never to be financially trapped under (or in other cases strapped to) someone who can hold it over your head or drag you down.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I care that they can afford life for themselves. I don't need a rich partner, but someone who could comfortably live on their own and not be reliant on me. I would assume they'd expect the same from me. My dad always told me never to be financially trapped under (or in other cases strapped to) someone who can hold it over your head or drag you down.

That is a good rule to live by. Its sad when someone is trapped in a relationship because they are financially dependent on their partner. When their only option is become homeless or stay with a bad egg.

 

[Dee]

That is a good rule to live by. Its sad when someone is trapped in a relationship because they are financially dependent on their partner. When their only option is become homeless or stay with a bad egg.

It happened to my mom in her second marriage. She was treated to a pretty lavish lifestyle and didn't have to work for a while. When she tried to better herself and get an education, her husband found a way to tell her she shouldn't as it would make her too busy for other family stuff. She ended up working for him for a few years and when they finally got divorced, she was pretty much left with the shit end of the stick.

I refuse to let that happen to me.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

It happened to my mom in her second marriage. She was treated to a pretty lavish lifestyle and didn't have to work for a while. When she tried to better herself and get an education, her husband found a way to tell her she shouldn't as it would make her too busy for other family stuff. She ended up working for him for a few years and when they finally got divorced, she was pretty much left with the shit end of the stick.

I refuse to let that happen to me.

Did she enroll in college and he made her drop out?

 

[Crys]

The dude earns more than me but I don't care. He doesn't care. In the end, we're a team and that's all that matters. That and cookies.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

cookies

You can make lots of cookies with that extra money he earns

 

[Dee]

Did she enroll in college and he made her drop out?

She wanted to go back to court reporting school as she had done in the past before she married her first husband (my dad), but her second husband wouldn't let her. Said it would be too much to juggle.