Can you forgive cheating?

[The Raven]

Cheating seems to be a normal part of relationships nowadays so there is a high chance you get cheated. And if you do get cheated, are you able to forgive to your man or girl? Let's play out scenarios.

Girl/guy cheaters on Boyfriend/Girlfriend. What do you do?
Husband/Wife cheats on their partner, what do you do? (you have kids)

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Cheating seems to be a normal part of relationships nowadays

Says who?

there is a high chance you get cheated

I don't think so.

 

[MrDawn]

I had an ex wife that was a serial cheater. We had kids. I loved her despite her flaws. I forgave her many times before we divorced but enough was enough.

 

[~ True Legend ~]

I had an ex wife that was a serial cheater. We had kids. I loved her despite her flaws. I forgave her many times before we divorced but enough was enough.

Takes you a while to realise that it's possible to forgive without trusting

 

[x0r]

I never can forgive the cheating to someone, who can trust my life to her.

 

[Mike30]

Takes you a while to realize that it's possible to forgive without trusting

Well, that is a true statement!

 

[McConnaughay]

Cheating seems to be a normal part of relationships nowadays so there is a high chance you get cheated.

I don't think cheating is a normal part of relationships nowadays.

I don't think I could forgive my wife if she were to cheat on me. I went all in on the relationship, we bought a house together and we made sacrifices for each other, and for either one of us to betray that, it'd be difficult to put the pieces back together.

 

[~ True Legend ~]

Cheating seems to be a normal part of relationships nowadays so there is a high chance you get cheated. And if you do get cheated, are you able to forgive to your man or girl? Let's play out scenarios.

Girl/guy cheaters on Boyfriend/Girlfriend. What do you do?
Husband/Wife cheats on their partner, what do you do? (you have kids)

Far from normal

 

[Dismal_Bliss]

I've actually seen many relationships survive cheating, even though most of them end in separation. Usually, the circumstances and attitude of the guilty party determines the outcome. Was this a one time case of letting one's guard down and did they come and confess immediately with great remorse? Or were they living a double life for months and are only "sorry" now that they've been caught?

 

[~ True Legend ~]

I've actually seen many relationships survive cheating, even though most of them end in separation. Usually, the circumstances and attitude of the guilty party determines the outcome. Was this a one time case of letting one's guard down and did they come and confess immediately with great remorse? Or were they living a double life for months and are only "sorry" now that they've been caught?

And did they get defensive when confronted? Or did they very reasonably ask “How can I make it up to you? How can I regain your trust?” and show a willingness to compromise on other things?

 

[MrDawn]

Takes you a while to realise that it's possible to forgive without trusting

Trust is a hard thing to give to anyone.

 

[~ True Legend ~]

Trust is a hard thing to give to anyone.

It is and even harder to regain once lost

 

[Saphira]

I don't know. It depends on the circumstances of the cheating, perhaps.