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Do you have/want children?
- Thread starter Sharon
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If I can find a supportive partner, then yeah but on my own I don't think I could pull it off.
I don't... even at 31, I don't feel ready. I'm worried that I'd be a bad parent, because I can't see myself being able to dedicate the time, energy, resources, and patience that a child deserves.
Never say never, but while my partner and I are both feeling this way, we have no plans to have kids.
Never say never, but while my partner and I are both feeling this way, we have no plans to have kids.
Depends a lot on who I meet I guess. My general feeling is that I would be very happy without kids. I see the appeal of having them especially since it's essentially a mini version of you but it's probably not for me.
I would much rather have the role of the fun uncle.
I would much rather have the role of the fun uncle.
How many more would you like to have had?
2 more. When we were teenagers and first started dating, we wanted to have 3 kids total but then he saw how expensive children are when we had our first daughter so he nixed that.
Do you think you can make them forum members sometime?
Jokes aside, i would love to have 2 as well.
I don't have any, I'm incapable of having any, and honestly, after having been a part of my sister's friend's daughter's life from birth to 4 so far, I'm alright with not having any. They're great, but the amount of work involved...yikes!
I read a lot about "the fear of becoming a parent" strikes in... but people change when they have kids.. i don't know if that makes sense to you.
It definitely makes sense, it's your own offspring and you love it dearly, but I don't see me heading down that path. Also I'm incapable of having kids, anyway, so no loss there.
I don't have any children and I don't believe I'd want them either. My hubby and I have our reasons for not wanting children.
It's a populated enough world, not everyone needs to have them.
There's always the need for fostering and adopting children if you ever changed your mind.
Very true, plenty of children in need of caring homes.
While I love being married, I don’t want kids. I am child-free by choice. People often say Oh you're childless. No, that means I'm missing something. By Choice means I chose not to have kids.
& while it’s true some people DO change their mind, I feel having a kid to test that theory out is wrong. I’ve seen many people regret having their kids. Sure, they love them, but the “If I could do over…” they’d choose to not give in to pressure by what society or family said.
& while it’s true some people DO change their mind, I feel having a kid to test that theory out is wrong. I’ve seen many people regret having their kids. Sure, they love them, but the “If I could do over…” they’d choose to not give in to pressure by what society or family said.
That's really tough for children to hear. Being loved is different than being wanted as a kid, i had a girlfriend that wasn't acknowledged by her father and.. she had lots of daddy issues.
That's a hurtful way to grow up. Was it because she was a female or did he just not want kids?
