Dysfunctional family

[Jazzy]

When you grow up in a dysfunctional family, you experience trauma and pain from your parents' actions, words, and attitudes. Because of this trauma you experienced, you grew up changed, different from other children, missing important parts of necessary parenting that prepare you for adulthood, missing parts of your childhood when you were forced into unnatural roles within your family. For some of you, it has led you to attempt to flee the pain of your past by alcohol or drug use. Others of you feel inexplicably compelled to repeat the abuses that were done to you on your own children or with your own spouse. Others of you have felt inner anxiety or rage, and don't know why you feel as you do.



Anyone experienced this? If so, how has it affected your life?

 

[Naviero X]

I haven't personally experienced a dysfunctional family. But, there are certain aspects of life that I did end up having a different view on than many people. An interesting and related article is this one, claiming why Chinese mothers are superior. I think that the style we were raised in affects us more than a dysfunctional family, but then that just adds to the hurt that the children would experience.

 

[Nebulous]

Lets see... I grew up with an alcoholic father who abused us on a daily basis. I would be one of those kids who would tell people in school that I walked into a door knob or I fell. After my mom left him she became addicted to perscription drugs and would sleep for like 20 hours a day every day. When she was actually awake she was just watching tv.

To sum it up:

1st half of childhood: abuse

2nd half of childhood: neglect



If that ain't dysfunctional I dont know what is. I turned out alright though. I look at those experiences as something that built character and taught me to be self sufficient.

 

[Durandal]

Anyone experienced this? If so, how has it affected your life?

Yeah. I've had to grow up quickly; oh, and I contemplate suicide on about a per minute basis - maybe by the half-minute after today.

 

[Evil Eye]

this one

That was a rather interesting read and I can see how that'd work. Seems a little over the top though

 

[Jazzy]

Yeah. I've had to grow up quickly; oh, and I contemplate suicide on about a per minute basis - maybe by the half-minute after today.

Have you sought professional help for the way you feel?