For members with divorced parents

[Jazzy]

Did being a child of divorce leave any long lasting impacts on you as an adult? If so, what impacts did it have?

 

[Jybrael]

Well smooth sorry to hear that you lost faith in people because of that incident. I had a similar incident when I was about the same age as you...my mom was pregnant with my youngest brother at that time and she was bed-ridden. We had a maid and my dad was sleeping around with her. Ofcourse my mother had a feeling that he was cheating on her but she never had enough proof. I on the other hand noticed everything as I was always there..I knew what was going on and I had even seen it happen (Well not them in action..that would have left me scarred for life...) but the way they were all lovey dovey towards each other.

Anyways that wasn't the thing that caused the divorce though...in my case the divorce was caused by family itself...my dads older brother kind of never liked my mom and so he started filling my dads head with lies...(This all happened after my mother had already given birth to my youngest brother)...anyways arguments started up in the house..there would be fights almost every single day..and this tension was never gone until my dad decided to divorce my mom. I was left with my dad...it didn't leave any negative social impact upon me but it did mess up my education in a really messed up way. So when I got a chance to move to Philippines away from everyone I took it as fast as I could even if it mean't I would be stuck in this country for a very long time and with basically messed up pay compared to what I would be earning in Kuwait.

I don't contact any of them anymore and its better this way though I do feel sorry for my dad from time to time..yes he did make a mistake by cheating on my mom but he did also try to change..what messed him up more was his brother and knowing him to be gullible from time to time..it makes me feel sorry for him. My mother on the other hand..I don't know...sometimes I feel like maybe both sides lied to each other..from all the things that I witnessed..I know enough dirt on both of them that if I ever picked a side..that side would easily win...back to the question...well life in the Philippines for me is hard but I am surviving..and on my own two feet.

 

[Nebulous]

Did being a child of divorce leave any long lasting impacts on you as an adult? If so, what impacts did it have?

Both of my parents had plenty of faults and divorced when I was 9. I pretty much try to live my adult life doing the opposite of whatever they did in any given situation. So when I think about it that way, they were pretty good role models.

 

[Dee]

My parents divorced when I was 7 and although we did live in the same area as my dad for about 3-4 more years, my mom decided to move out of state to follow her sister. This meant instead of seeing my dad on weekends, like we were doing before, I could only see him once a year. And it's been that way for a good 17 or so years now. This is the one thing I'm completely resentful for, that my dad was taken away from me. He's a good, funny, caring guy, albeit a bit rough around the edges. I just feel like I didn't have the chance to grow up with a dad constantly in my life.