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How Did You Get Over Being Dumped?
- Thread starter Jazzy
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its not nice
last time i felt totally gutted..........but then we had been together for 17 years and married for 9
was a very low point in my life, took me a few months to get used to it (used to it, not over it)
in hind sight, im kind of glad it happened tho cos now i have a partner i wouldnt trade for any thing
last time i felt totally gutted..........but then we had been together for 17 years and married for 9
was a very low point in my life, took me a few months to get used to it (used to it, not over it)
in hind sight, im kind of glad it happened tho cos now i have a partner i wouldnt trade for any thing
I was dumped yesterday and the feelings I've gotten from it. Well I'll just say I spent the day and night in a funk. So I've yet to get over it. Any other time I've been dumped. Usually took a few days. Although the relationship I was in before this last one, I wound up doing the deed.
Jazzy said:
I actually I haven't; dead honest. I've always done the dumping. To me, however, I think it has been worse (then again, come time when I've been dumped in the future, I might have a different opinion).
Doing the deed itself to me is painful, because it's like you've tried everything to purify the water in the lake, but no matter what you do, it is still toxic and there is no more that you can really do.
I have, however, in a way, been dumped not by the person herself, but by life's circumstances...I was in a very close and committed relationship with someone, and would've probably even eventually married her, but she was killed in a car collision (two speeding cars hit my car). It will actually have been five years on January 2, 2011...
The former situations - writing and music, perhaps a little bit of the drink, too (certainly not alcoholism, but spending time with people in a positive, fun environment and letting loose leads to such (drinking)).
The latter - I don't know if I've accomplished that yet.
This is so very heartbreaking and I'm so sorry for your loss. I deal with this almost every day due to my job as a Paramedic. The senseless loss of a loved one due to drinking or speeding. The worst part of my job is having to tell family and friends their loved one gone. I get so angry that an innocent life was taken because of the stupidity of another human being. They walk away most of the time with minor injuries and leave family and friends with a lifetime of pain. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Must say that it's only happened to me once. My Irish/Italian temper caused me to be very angry. I got over it with the help of some very close friends who lent me their shoulders to cry on. They didn't judge or offer advice, they were just there to listen and let me vent. I am grateful every day that I have such great friends in my life.
I've usually actually just let it go and got over it, but that was just because the guys were jerks and broke up over text messages.
The last one was harder...ended up just spilling everything out to a friend that's like my brother and he helped me through it.
The last one was harder...ended up just spilling everything out to a friend that's like my brother and he helped me through it.
