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"I don't accept your apology"
- Thread starter Duskpire
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honestly I do it all the time
I'm sorry is just words. if you really are, show it in some way
Maybe internally but I've never rejected an apology to someone's face. I've never said the words "I don't accept your apology" to someone after they've apologized to me. Usually its an awkward situation so I just want to end it as quickly as possible and move on.
As @emily said, words are just words. You have to SHOW that you're sorry through your actions and behavior.
As @emily said, words are just words. You have to SHOW that you're sorry through your actions and behavior.
Not that I recall. If someone treats me really bad, then walks away or whatever, then, the next day apologizes and admits their fault, 99% of the time I will accept it. It takes courage to admit your mistakes.
Agreed. Unless there are repeated promises being broken or lines that are personally crossed that you don't wish to cross again in which case it's best to forgive but not forget.
What you don't want is ppl walking all over you - just apologising so that they're given another chance to hurt you. Sometimes in order for ppl to change, evolve and grow ppl need to experience consequences involving deep pain and loss. That's reality.
I respect your view and we're all different, this is just mine. Not imposing
You all good. Some very wise words!Agreed. Unless there are repeated promises being broken or lines that are personally crossed that you don't wish to cross again in which case it's best to forgive but not forget.
What you don't want is ppl walking all over you - just apologising so that they're given another chance to hurt you. Sometimes in order for ppl to change, evolve and grow ppl need to experience consequences involving deep pain and loss. That's reality.
I respect your view and we're all different, this is just mine. Not imposing
Also would you not reject an apology along the lines of “I’m sorry that you feel that way” with a big fat BUT that then follows it ?You all good. Some very wise words!
That means you haven’t accepted their apology.
Introduce themselves? Personally? I think it’s unfair to judge someone based on first impressions but hey…
I assume you meant believe someone when they reveal their true colours e.g. how they behave when they don’t get what they want, a conflict arises or if they try to underhandedly curry favour from others even if that means disrespecting someone? Stuff like that indicates an opportunist.
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I also think that once you cut them out of your life, that MIGHT be enough pain caused for them to want to change, so they never behave the same way to someone else.
I think ppl may not change for YOU, but they WILL LIKELY change for themselves as they realise no one can stand them etc
You can accept someone's apology and no longer have to associate with them. To forgive does not mean to forget. Forgive does not mean to automatically trust that person again either. To forgive is to quit feeling anger and resentment about it and move on with your life. There is no rule cited anywhere saying you have to continue being friends with someone after forgiving them. It does not excuse them for what they did. Cutting them out of your life is just demonstrating that you learned a hard lesson from trusting the wrong people. Once you violate trust, you often times don't ever get it back.
"I'm sorry you feel that way" isn't an apology to me. It's an excuse for the transgression without having to bear guilt.
This is my approach too. Unhealthy to get involved in arguments and carry emotional baggage, as toxic emotions can ruin other relationships!
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Same with apologies with a big fat BUT
Point is - insincere apologies.
It is not an apology at all, its a passive aggressive way to dismiss someone's feelings.
Yes agreed....
