Interracial relationships

[Bryd0]

Relationships are nice to be in, but there's hoo-ha over people having a girlfriend/boyfriend that is of a different race to them, mostly from those that are of an older generation or just people that think it's wrong. What are your views on interracial relationships? For me, it doesn't bother me. If a white man wants to have a pretty black woman as his wife, let him. Although, an interracial couple having children can be an issue.

I have my own stories of this subject... about a year ago, the daughter of my next door neighbour had a boyfriend who was black and her parents objected to it. Can't mind if she's still with him or did she separate from him because they think it's wrong to have a black boyfriend. Another, which is from today. When I was out last week, I saw a couple that consisted of a white man and an Asian woman (who I think was Japanese, as I did hear her say Japanese sentences) that also had their child with them. Not only did the kid have obvious mixed features of his parents but he also had blue eyes, which is what people of Asian descent don't really have. That's nothing really, but that kid really baffled me.

 

[Nebulous]

I've been in more interracial relationships than the opposite. My daughter is half Mexican / half white in fact. My current GF is Mexican too. People are people and love is color blind to me.

 

[Sinon]

Why would an interracial couple having children be an issue? Scratch that, why would any adult relationship have anything to do with you, or anybody aside from those who are a part of it?

 

[Evil Eye]

Hmm, it could be an issue for other people*, who could then proceed to make trouble for the kid.

* Read that any way you like.

 

[Fatal Dawn]

Temitope Oriola did a pretty good study a while back on mixed race couples that found some explanations as to why certain people choose different races as partners. Some marry outside their race because it is exotic, others for legal purposes, etc. And minorities have a much harder time assimilating into other cultures. Asian women however assimilate better into White culture than other minorities (particularly Black women). Here's an excerpt:

‘You can date a White woman, but you marry a Black woman’

The results show how divergent subjects’ experiences were when they introduced their partners to their families, how they began to learn, adopt and adapt to otherwise ‘alien’ cultures, and what impact these have had on their identities. The results indicate that except in one case, minority families are generally reluctant to accept their children’s White partners.

White female, home mother with two years of college). According to Joseph; ‘(m)y friends said you can date a white woman, but you marry a black woman...I thought I would only use a white woman and marry a black woman.’ Joseph explains that in Ethiopia, Whites are favourably viewed because of their involvement in missionary and humanitarian activities but that ‘marriage is different. You don’t want to marry a white person; you are expected to marry an Ethiopian.’ Therefore, when his family realized he was bent on marrying a White woman he says:

They thought I was crazy…My parents and brother did not agree; only my little sister supported the idea. Nobody in my family showed up for the wedding. They disowned me and nobody from my family spoke with me for three years. So my family was the major problem not hers.

Joseph had expected to face opposition from his White partner’s family and not his.

http://www.mixedracestudies.org/wordpress/?tag=temitope-oriola

Personally I don't see why mixed race relationships are so controversial. Gene flow makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. And with increasing globalization humans of different races interacting was bound to happen.

 

[Bryd0]

+1 for that useful link

Anyway, people that have a problem with interracial relationships are somewhat racist. Especially those of the older generation who may have war-related reasons of why they're against it.

 

[DrLeftover]

I can't speak to this.

Everyone I've ever dated has been Human, whatever their skin tone.

 

[seasidemike]

I don't have problem with it at all.
I actually think from a practice point, relationships of very different religious beliefs could be much harder that relationships of different races.

 

[Bryd0]

I actually think from a practice point, relationships of very different religious beliefs could be much harder that relationships of different races.

Good point. Why didn't I think of that...