Is This Cheating Or Not?

[Jazzy]

My co-worker asked me a question last night that I truly didn't know how to answer. She and her boyfriend will be celebrating being together for a year the end of this month. Her boyfriend, met this single woman at work. He then went on Facebook to look up her status. He also added her as a friend and they have been online chatting. She found out by looking at his friends on Facebook. She confronted him and he told her that since her status is In a relationship it was all innocent and she was making a big deal out of nothing.



Her question to me was if I consider this cheating on her or not.



My question to all of you is, do you think what he did is considered cheating on her? Please explain your answer.

 

[Nebulous]

Chatting isn't cheating.

F**king each other is.

 

[Jazzy]

IMO, it depends on what they're chatting about. Could be sexual chat -or- chatting about a possible meet up somewhere. There's a reason (in my mind) why her boyfriend wanted to know this womans status. If this were me, I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw an elephant.

 

[Cranos]

Even if the chat is a bit sexual, it's still just innocent flirting imo. As long as they don't do anything (as in meeting up in secret, kissing, having sex, etc), you can't really blame him for anything.

 

[Jazzy]

Funny thing is that when she asked him how he would feel if she did this, he told her he'd be f**king pissed.

Question to the guys: Would you be pissed if you found out your girlfriend was doing this to you?

 

[Evil Eye]

Not really, for the above reasons...



According to that logic anyone reading this while in a relationship would be cheating with me... Seems like a fair comparison anyway.

 

[Cranos]

Funny thing is that when she asked him how he would feel if she did this, he told her he'd be f**king pissed.

Question to the guys: Would you be pissed if you found out your girlfriend was doing this to you?

Hmm, since the guy himself admitted that he'd be pissed the chatting probably wasn't that innocent. So I'd say yes, I'd be pissed.

 

[Nebulous]

How do you know he was going to check her relationship status.



Even if he was,

it could just be for literally no reason (believe me, guys don't really have secret motives behind everything they do, but women seem to think we do. lol) or even to see if she was single so he could fix her up with one of his single buddies.



If he wasn't checking if she was single,

he could have simply just added a Co worker as a friend. I have a couple Co workers as Facebook friends (male and female), and it means nothing. Hell, even my ex is on my friends & her husband don't care. We should be considered a hazard (or whatever you want to call it) as fb friends because we have been intimate about a million times, but we aren't.



If you don't trust your partner and want to ruin a relationship over Facebook assumptions, then so be it. BUT its pretty silly and immature if you ask me.

 

[seasidemike]

No it is not cheating.. but it could lead to the beginning of a relationship and thus the end of theirs so she should be concered. But is she get's all fecked up about it, it could make the situation even worse.. she needs to play this one carefully.