Male or female company

[ellyfant]

Are you a man or a woman and are you more comfortable in the company of men or women.

I'm a girl and usually more comfortable being around men. Not saying I don't like women, just that men are usually more straightforward and, well, I just enjoy being with them more. How about you - which and why?

 

[emily]

girl, and prefer my own company. people bug me usually

if I have to be around someone then it will be female

 

[Crys]

Woman. I prefer to be around men more. I can get down with the guys, talk about whatever, and just chill out. With women, speaking from my own personal experiences, not a dig at anyone here, it's just b.s. There's always someone wanting to gossip about the next girl, judging, etc and I feel more comfortable around guys because there's none of that, at least with the group I hang with.

 

[Webster]

Are you a man or a woman and are you more comfortable in the company of men or women.

I'm a girl and usually more comfortable being around men. Not saying I don't like women, just that men are usually more straightforward and, well, I just enjoy being with them more. How about you - which and why?

Last time I remember, male.
I'm more comfortable around men; with women I usually go by the Billy Graham Rule unless its someone I've known for a long time.

What's 'the Billy Graham Rule'?

In 1948, Billy Graham and his team members created what became known as the Modesto Manifesto. It was a commitment to integrity that still stands toda

billygraham.org

Quoting from the second part of the above....

The second item on the list was the danger of sexual immorality. - We all knew of evangelists who had fallen into immorality while separated from their families by travel. We pledged among ourselves to avoid any situation that would have even the appearance of compromise or suspicion. From that day on, I did not travel, meet or eat alone with a woman other than my wife. We determined that the Apostle Paul’s mandate to the young pastor Timothy would be ours as well: “Flee … youthful lusts” (2 Timothy 1:22, KJV).

 

[ellyfant]

Last time I remember, male.
I'm more comfortable around men; with women I usually go by the Billy Graham Rule unless its someone I've known for a long time.

What's 'the Billy Graham Rule'?

In 1948, Billy Graham and his team members created what became known as the Modesto Manifesto. It was a commitment to integrity that still stands toda

billygraham.org

Quoting from the second part of the above....

The second item on the list was the danger of sexual immorality. - We all knew of evangelists who had fallen into immorality while separated from their families by travel. We pledged among ourselves to avoid any situation that would have even the appearance of compromise or suspicion. From that day on, I did not travel, meet or eat alone with a woman other than my wife. We determined that the Apostle Paul’s mandate to the young pastor Timothy would be ours as well: “Flee … youthful lusts” (2 Timothy 1:22, KJV).

Doesn't that imply that men are simply unable to resist, unable to control themselves and should therefore never put themselves in a position where that might happen.

Interesting because my boyfriend and I were having a discussion about rape last night and he suggested that if a woman 'appears' to be seductive then it might be a reason for some men to think that she wants it and which the man feels gives him the go ahead to commit rape. Wrong!

 

[Webster]

Doesn't that imply that men are simply unable to resist, unable to control themselves and should therefore never put themselves in a position where that might happen.

At its' heart the rule protects both individuals - it protects the woman from having to answer questions about why she met with a married individual alone. It protect the man (especially if married) from having to defend the same from their side.

Go back and read the full article, Elly; one of the reasons for this rule was that Rev. Graham and other evangelists at the time knew other evangelists who had gotten mixed up in affairs with unmarried women while out on evangelistic crusades and visits and given the basic human predilection for gossip and rumor mongering, wanted to eliminate that possibility and the easiest way to do so was to eliminate the potential for such a situation happening.

It doesn't mean that we as men devalue women; far from it. The 1st century AD apostle Paul, from whose verse of scripture came the original idea for the BGR, spoke of how women, as fellow Christians, should be treated with the same respect and dignity as men in that period. This was a very revolutionary thought, Elly, in the 1st century AD world; at that time, women are treated barely better (if that) than slaves were treated and Paul, in Galatians 3:28, made clear that as Christians, we are all equal in the sight of God - "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus." (NKJV)

Part of that recognition of women as being equals is treating them with dignity and respect and acknowledging that there are difference between the sexes (contrary to popular societal opinion) and in Graham's rule here, Rev. Graham sought to eliminate the potential for putting women in a position that de-dignified them. It did not mean, however, that Graham treated women less than he did men; he merely sought to ensure that no one could gossip or rumor about him being in the presence of another women who wasn't Ruth Graham (a/k/a Graham's wife) and the simplest way to do that was to not be in such a position.

 

[Dee]

I don't really have a preference as long as the person I'm with likes the same things I do, or we have some things in common. Doesn't matter if male, female, whatever.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I think it completely depends on the individual. As long as you're cool and I am comfortable around you, then it doesn't matter what your gender is.

 

[MamaFrankie]

Female and comfortable around no one but myself.

 

[Black Angel]

Honestly at one point in my life, I probably would have said that I prefer to hang out around guys, because the girls I knew were catty and always involved in some crazy drama, but I have since come to the realization that guys are crazy too.. and can be more gossipy and dramatic than women.

I had a lot of guy friends who I thought were cool, but had to end my friendships with them because they either had feelings for me and they told me as such (which weren't returned and it was awkward) or straight up lied to their girlfriends about me to make them jealous, which, later on, I would find out from their girlfriend that it was because they had feelings for me and tried to make me out to be the "other woman." I wasn't flattered, I was furious at the accusation and ended the friendship for that reason.. I had not choice as that was a huge red flag.

I dont consider myself to be all that either.. I guess it was just something that ended up happening with them over time, and it always blindsided me, but I wasn't putting that kind of energy out there.. I just had the same interests they did, but just happened to be a female.

This was how it happened with me and my husband.. we started out as coworkers, and then we became best friends, fell for each other at the same time, but I had the courage to make the first move and that led us to being married today.. So I don't really have a preference of who to hang out with anymore.. but if I think you are cool, and a good person then I dont mind hanging out with you..

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

guys are crazy too.. and can be more gossipy and dramatic than women.

Oh hell yeah they are! I've had way more drama with other dudes than I've ever had with women. Grown ass men acting like children is the norm from my experience.

I had a lot of guy friends who I thought were cool, but had to end my friendships with them because they either had feelings for me and they told me as such (which weren't returned and it was awkward) or straight up lied to their girlfriends about me to make them jealous, which, later on, I would find out from their girlfriend that it was because they had feelings for me and tried to make me out to be the "other woman." I wasn't flattered, I was furious at the accusation and ended the friendship for that reason.. I had not choice as that was a huge red flag.

Sounds like you need a gay male friend, straight guys are the most drama.

 

[Black Angel]

I might have a few, but I wouldn't really know unless they told me.. but its all good though.

In my experience I have learned that the guys who say they hate drama, are the biggest drama queens themselves..

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

In my experience I have learned that the guys who say they hate drama, are the biggest drama queens themselves..

Thats true.

 

[DrLeftover]

Two things.

One:
"I'm supposed to have a Ph.D. on the subject of women. But the truth is I've flunked more often than not. I'm very fond of women; I admire them. But, like all men, I don't understand them."
Frank Sinatra (1915 - 1998)

Two:
I need a REALLY stout drink before I say any more.


which answered the OP nicely. No?

 

[safeinsanity]

Men are cooler but women have the ... well you know.

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

Men are cooler but women have the ... well you know.

Brains? They are smarter than us.

 

[MrDawn]

Male. I'm more comfortable with women. I get along with women a lot more than I get along with men.

 

[passenger]

I'm a woman - and find that I'm equally comfortable around men and other women....does not seem to matter. Depends so much on the "vibes".

 

[Nebulous's iconNebulous]

I'm a woman - and find that I'm equally comfortable around men and other women....does not seem to matter. Depends so much on the "vibes".

Vibes are very important.