Online dating sites

[Jazzy]

Have you ever tried one? If so, what happened?

If you haven't tried one, would you? (Why / why not?)

 

[Jamie]

I wouldn't because of there reputation, ive had people tell me it doesnt last long and only some people actually gets in a relationship.

 

[Nebulous]

I met my current partner from an online personal ad. We didn't chat for months and create a whole false perception that the other person couldn't live up to, we just exchanged a couple emails and met up. The relationship grew naturally from there. Been together almost 3 years now.

 

[Jazzy]

I met my current partner from an online personal ad. We didn't chat for months and create a whole false perception that the other person couldn't live up to, we just exchanged a couple emails and met up. The relationship grew naturally from there. Been together almost 3 years now.

That's wonderful and glad it worked out for you and your partner.

 

[Jamie]

Glad it work out for you Nebulous

 

[Jazzy]

I wouldn't try an online dating site. My friend did and it turned out horrible for her. The guy posted a pic of himself that was about 15 years younger than what his real age was. I went with her to meet him because she was afraid to go alone. He said he would be driving a red pickup truck and would meet her at the diner. We got there early and were sitting in her car watching all the vehicles pulling in. Finally, the red pickup truck pulled in. When the guy got out of the truck, he was bald and extremely obese. She took one look at him and said: "I am so out of here." We drove off....

 

[Nebulous]

I wouldn't try an online dating site. My friend did and it turned out horrible for her.

Almost every possible thing you could ever do in life has probably not worked out for others in the past. That shouldn't keep you from experiencing things.

 

[Jazzy]

^ You're right. If I ever get an urge to date a bald, obese 50 year old man, I'll think about signing up. :s

 

[Nebulous]

^ You're right. If I ever get an urge to date a bald, obese 50 year old man, I'll think about signing up. :s

...yeah, because every single situation will turn out just like your friends experience :s

 

[Jazzy]

The point I'm trying to make is that you have no idea if people on these sites are being truthful. Hell, they could be a psycho, rapist or murderer. Why on earth would I take the chance in meeting someone like that? Plus, I like to know and see 'first hand' what I'm getting myself into. To me, people who use sites like these are desperate or hiding things. Can they not meet people in their 'own backyard' and not have to resort to finding them on a dating site? I can tell you one thing, I will never resort to that. I'd rather be alone than take chances with my life.

 

[Nebulous]

You could run into a psycho murderer every time you leave your house. There is potential risks associated with practically everything in life. Also desperate people are more likely to take advantage of a drunken bar/pub patron or they might go find a hooker.
We're living in a modern technology driven world and it's perfectly normal for people to socialize and date online. There's literally millions of normal, well adjusted, non-desperate people out there who met their partner online and there's nothing wrong with that as long as they're happy together.

 

[Jazzy]

Never said anything was wrong with it. I merely voiced my own opinion.

 

[gaze-universe]

I'm signed up on one because it's easy to state on the profile options that I'm ftm transgender person. Never met anyone on it though..also I don't log in regularly. All my relationships aside the last one (met on a forum) have started by meeting them in person first hand or through a friend. I don't think starting a relationship online is the best way. Unless you meet in person right away and see whether you hit it off or not.

 

[Raven]

Been on them in the past and have met people via that. I don't blame the sites for them not working out though, it's all down to you chemistry. I am currently on Plenty of Fish but I'm not looking for anyone at the moment.

 

[Bluezone777]

I like to point to a case such as the Scott Peterson case which involved a man who looked perfect on the outside but at heart was a killer and an adulterer who ended up murdering his pregnant wife so he could be with his mistress. The point I am making is you aren't any safer just because you can see the person you are with physically. It would be wise to be prudent and careful when ever going on dates rather then be from online contacts or not.

The important thing is to ask enough about a person that if they were lying to you that you would expose it through inconsistencies in their answers. It's far harder to keep a lie then it is to keep the truth straight as truth resides in our memory while lies reside in our imagination which doesn't hold information as well as our memories do. It's not a foolproof method but it helps that's for sure.

By denying yourself a venue of meeting people does only you a disservice while not offering any protection from harmful people that would be gained from being prudent and observant of possible issues with the people you meet.

As for me, I never considered using such sites as relationships have never been an interest of mine in obtaining.

 

[McConnaughay]

Why do porn-sites think I am willing to have sex with ugly women at any given moment!?

Anyway, ...

 

[Icetex]

all bunch of lies

 

[Nebulous]

After my divorce, I checked out a few dating sites. I liked Plenty O' Fish because it was easy to use and free. I waded through a couple assholes, but then lucked out with my ol' man. We've been going strong for almost 5 years now. (A few bumps here and there, but that happens with every relationship.)
My sister also had a relationship with a man she met online. They stuck it out for over 7 years.
So it can work, Jazzy! It worked like a dream for me!

Nice nice. Glad you were able to find a good one too.

 

[Jazzy]

After my divorce, I checked out a few dating sites. I liked Plenty O' Fish because it was easy to use and free. I waded through a couple assholes, but then lucked out with my ol' man. We've been going strong for almost 5 years now. (A few bumps here and there, but that happens with every relationship.)
My sister also had a relationship with a man she met online. They stuck it out for over 7 years.
So it can work, Jazzy! It worked like a dream for me!

Very happy it worked out for you.

 

[Scarlet Rose]

Yep, I'm a member of OkCupid. Started getting messages from people now though, so I am not going to go there anymore. Somehow I think I missed the point of that site. I did enjoy the quizzes they have there though.