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Online dating websites
- Thread starter Jazzy
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I have. I use one now for the forums.
I like forums and to see others views. It also shows you a lot about people.
Would I use one to date? Tried that and generally speaking I wonder if people have lost the art of conversation.
Everyone has different expectations as well. Some want Hi, I'm lets meet! Some forget the past is the past and you've learned everything about their last relationship, birth marks on their kids butts. However, they didn't find out a thing about you.
I like forums and to see others views. It also shows you a lot about people.
Would I use one to date? Tried that and generally speaking I wonder if people have lost the art of conversation.
Everyone has different expectations as well. Some want Hi, I'm lets meet! Some forget the past is the past and you've learned everything about their last relationship, birth marks on their kids butts. However, they didn't find out a thing about you.
I haven't used one and don't intend to either after what happened to my friend. She meet a guy on a dating site and they hit it off. He was a very good looking man and they decided to meet in person at a diner. My friend was scared to go alone so I followed her there in my vehicle. He said he would be driving a red truck and would be wearing a denim shirt and jeans. We waited in the parking lot and a few minutes later, the red truck pulled in. A very large, elderly and bald man emerged from the truck. To make a long story short: He had used a very young picture for his profile and needless to say, my girlfriend and I left.
Deception indeed. Did he think she wasn't going to notice the difference?Ahh the deception as well. Wise move to leave
Deception indeed. Did he think she wasn't going to notice the difference?
Lol I don't know. I always wonder if people realise they look different as they get older? Self delusion?
I reckon forums is where the attraction is or can be.
I think this is where you find banter, common ground and learn about people. I prefer the no pressure basis. That way it could happen naturally. Nothing forced.
Yeah, met my partner through an online personal ad.
Sure some people have bad experiences but that doesn't mean it's going to happen to you every single time. Not everyone who uses the online dating method is a weirdo or a liar. Decent regular folk use it too. It's hard to meet new people in the real world.
Sure some people have bad experiences but that doesn't mean it's going to happen to you every single time. Not everyone who uses the online dating method is a weirdo or a liar. Decent regular folk use it too. It's hard to meet new people in the real world.
She was "supposed to be made of better stuff than that" and not be so "superficial" to care about his looks, his age, and his deceptions.Deception indeed. Did he think she wasn't going to notice the difference?
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Like whoflung, I've been on a dating site strictly for their forums and the online interaction with people. Years ago (when I moved to a new town at 50 and knew NO one), I tried a couple of online dating sites: eharmony and Plenty of Fish. My experience with the men my age whom I met is they carry more baggage and have more angst and despair and unfinished business from That Last Bitch that they were just dying to take out on This Next Bitch.
No...no more online dating sites for me; IMHO, dating is a real-world, real-time endeavor IF one wants to do it properly.
Since my past girlfriend and I broke up a few months ago, I've used Tinder once or twice, but never really got matched with anyone that I liked enough to date. Other than that, naw, I don't use online dating sites.
I'm much more likely to find someone that I like around where I live.
I'm much more likely to find someone that I like around where I live.
My better half is thinking of starting a dating site because of the experiences of a couple of her friends mirroring some of the comments above, she is thinking along the lines of a personalised service where she match makes after interviewing members and after they have completed a short online questionnaire, her friends all say that most men and women are only looking for a quickie and not long term relationship when they join the free dating sites so she is thinking of offering a proper old fashioned style of dating agency for people genuinely looking for love.
I have never used a dating site because I meet the boss in an old-fashioned way down the pub
I have never used a dating site because I meet the boss in an old-fashioned way down the pub
callie8
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@mrldii .....years ago?.......at 50! ? I couldn't tell! 
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I've had probably 150 dates off dating sites. Yes some were deceitful, psychotic, crazy.... But some I dated successfully for years. I dated a cop from NYC for years til the distance factor ruled. But it was worth it while it lasted because he is THE hottest man who ever walked on the face of the planet earth, ever, of all time! Now I met my bf on one of the dating sites too and he's just great!
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I've had probably 150 dates off dating sites. Yes some were deceitful, psychotic, crazy.... But some I dated successfully for years. I dated a cop from NYC for years til the distance factor ruled. But it was worth it while it lasted because he is THE hottest man who ever walked on the face of the planet earth, ever, of all time! Now I met my bf on one of the dating sites too and he's just great!
@callie8:
I'm not sure if that was a comment about my age (I'll be 55 in a couple of months) or if you were commenting about how long I've been online. BEFORE coming to DH in 2011 (at 50), I was on eHarmony; while on DH to play in the forums, I used PoF for dating. ALL the online sites cured me of any desire to continue with online *dating*. As I said, for ME successful dating occurs in real-time and in the real-world.
I don't begrudge others who've successfully done it online...it's just not a viable option for me, especially since I have no desire to move (AGAIN) and even less desire to be in a long distance relationship (AGAIN).
Contrary to appearances, I'm NOT really "insane", so I DON'T do the same things over and over, expecting different results...I learn after the first [hundred] times.
I'm not sure if that was a comment about my age (I'll be 55 in a couple of months) or if you were commenting about how long I've been online. BEFORE coming to DH in 2011 (at 50), I was on eHarmony; while on DH to play in the forums, I used PoF for dating. ALL the online sites cured me of any desire to continue with online *dating*. As I said, for ME successful dating occurs in real-time and in the real-world.
I don't begrudge others who've successfully done it online...it's just not a viable option for me, especially since I have no desire to move (AGAIN) and even less desire to be in a long distance relationship (AGAIN).
Contrary to appearances, I'm NOT really "insane", so I DON'T do the same things over and over, expecting different results...I learn after the first [hundred] times.
I've tried them multiple times and I just end up leaving days later. It gets annoying sending message after message or matching with people and those people have no interaction with you whatsoever when you reach out to them. I don't think I ever came across as creepy on an online dating site, so it would be nice to have a little contact back even if it's someone telling you they're not really interested in you. I hate when people ignore the messages I send them.
Online dating is just weird to me overall as well. I mean, I know it can be like real life where you're interacting with complete strangers, but I'd rather a relationship happen organically than by online means. If I were to ever date someone online, I'd definitely have many precautions.
Online dating is just weird to me overall as well. I mean, I know it can be like real life where you're interacting with complete strangers, but I'd rather a relationship happen organically than by online means. If I were to ever date someone online, I'd definitely have many precautions.
Luckily for me, I met my wife before online dating was a thing. I have no idea how I would handle things now-a-days. I’m a really shy person in day-to-day life. Every girl I’ve ever talked to has approached me and has also been older than me as well. I like older women. My wife is only three years older than me though, so not too bad.
Thats good you found someone and didn't have to deal with the apps. I hear they can be stressful.
