Being single rocks! I can do whatever I want, spend my money however I want too. I've chosen to be single, celibate and childfree for life because that's what I want from it personally. I've been around my baby cousins and I myself just really can't stand them. And from my PERSONAL experience with relationships, dating is boring, romance is overrated and some partners (male or female) can be really jealous, obsessive and possessive of you. With my 1st ex, I couldn't even talk to any other guy than him so yeah.
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Single for Life!
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For me, it's not so much about money and jealousy as it's about abuse. I don't know why, but, in my country, it is considered normal and socially acceptable for pater familias to physically and emotionally abuse his wife and child(ren) for any reason he sees fit, or for no reason whatsoever, just because he has the "right" to do so and feels like it. In the absence of pater familias, mother takes over the beating "duty".
My mother had an interesting strategy. She would pin me to the wall so I couldn't escape, cover my mouth with one hand so that no one would hear me screaming in pain and savagely beat me with her other hand, either empty hand or with some solid object, like a thick wooden stick. Why, you may wonder, dear reader? Usually for some ridiculous reason, like me being too young to know how to write and / or properly tie my own shoelaces, nothing that would constitute as misbehavior, or something worse.
On paper, ergo in theory, society condemns such behavior, but in reality, they silently tolerate and passively encourage it by not doing anything about it under the pretext that family matters are not their business and that everyone are free to do whatever they want within the confines of their house walls, as long as no one outside of it sees or hears anything. As the certain bartender from Nar Shaddaa would say:
I am yet to encounter so much as one married couple who doesn't abuse each other in some way, where at least one person hasn't regretted getting married, but often won't get a divorce either, because it's also something the society doesn't approve of lightly.
Since it is de facto implied that such behavior is normal and encouraged in family life, why would I want a family? Why would I purposely open my door to such lifestyle? This question is rhetorical, of course.
My mother had an interesting strategy. She would pin me to the wall so I couldn't escape, cover my mouth with one hand so that no one would hear me screaming in pain and savagely beat me with her other hand, either empty hand or with some solid object, like a thick wooden stick. Why, you may wonder, dear reader? Usually for some ridiculous reason, like me being too young to know how to write and / or properly tie my own shoelaces, nothing that would constitute as misbehavior, or something worse.
On paper, ergo in theory, society condemns such behavior, but in reality, they silently tolerate and passively encourage it by not doing anything about it under the pretext that family matters are not their business and that everyone are free to do whatever they want within the confines of their house walls, as long as no one outside of it sees or hears anything. As the certain bartender from Nar Shaddaa would say:
I am yet to encounter so much as one married couple who doesn't abuse each other in some way, where at least one person hasn't regretted getting married, but often won't get a divorce either, because it's also something the society doesn't approve of lightly.
Since it is de facto implied that such behavior is normal and encouraged in family life, why would I want a family? Why would I purposely open my door to such lifestyle? This question is rhetorical, of course.
You have made a great decision for yourself. Be proud of it and do not listen to others who tell you otherwise.
Everyone has their own reasons for why the choose to live their life the way they do. I believe whatever makes you happy is what you should do. Don't let social and societal expectations dictate the way you should live your life.
I've been single all 31 (almost 32) years of my life. Sometimes I enjoy it, sometimes not so much. I do too think relationships are overrated for the most part, like it's definitely not a requirement in life to survive. But, I can understand most people wanting to share their life with someone else. Relationships can have positive and negative effects on your life. I'd personally like to try and be in a relationship one day, but I try not to let society push me into one or be in one for the sake of my own benefits.
I'm sure the right person will walk into your life when you least expect it!
So I've been told by multiple people. Kind of tough though when you don't get out much often and don't talk much when you do actually get out.
Do you work? I know a lot of people who found love in the workplace.
I'm unemployed at the moment, but I don't really want to date anyone from work due to having too many bad experiences in trying to do so, especially my last attempt which caused me to kind of go off the deep end and be really moody and kind of selfish towards her.
I worked with an ex and us working together was the main cause of us breaking up. I should have transferred or found a new job to save the relationship. But then again, I am with someone better now so its all good.
I essentially quit my job due to obsessing too much about her and the way I felt like I was always being watched or criticized by her. She's a really good person it seems, but I was really paranoid around her.
Aww, our insecurities are our own worst enemy!
Indeed they are and my biggest insecurity in life is probably getting into a relationship with someone.
Once you get into a successful one, that will probably wear off.
True, it takes an experience to lessen the insecurity of the experience.
Yeah i was super awkward and a bad boyfriend my first couple relationships. It was all a learning experience.
Sounds a lot like everyday living, experience is what builds wisdom.
Learning from mistakes is a good thing!
True, it builds character.
Relationships just don't interest me at all. I prefer having only myself to answer to. I waited too long for my freedom to waste my life on a relationship.
