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Etiquette, visiting another house?
- Thread starter Randy
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I don't agree with wait until being offered to sit
how many people do you know that will just want you to stand?
Most offer you a seat as soon as you walk in, I think it's only appropriate to wait for that invitation. To do so without being offered could be construed as rude.
Thats a good one. My daughters friend was over the other day and he was here for hours and hours. We all wanted him to leave. When he finally did, the first thing my daughter said was "glad he finally went home." I don't want people to be saying that to me as soon as I walk out of their house.
As a lockpicker/practiciing locksmith... there have been times when I've been stuck outside for long periods after being invited over... it's hard not to be tempted to simply open the door so I follow the vampire rule. do not enter until invited in.
probably helps that vlad tepes is an ancestor lol.
same with being offered a seat, I have no issue standing for long periods... usually they realize I'm standing and ask if I want to sit down XD
probably helps that vlad tepes is an ancestor lol.
same with being offered a seat, I have no issue standing for long periods... usually they realize I'm standing and ask if I want to sit down XD
I rarely let my kids have friends over. It just causes problems. They can see them at school. That's plenty enough time for them to socialize.
That's why I prefer to go to someone else's home for under an hour. If I have them over they may never leave which is why I'm not overly fond of guests. Going to where they are gives me a way out should I tire of them. At least if I go to their house I can make up any excuse I'd like to get away whenever I want and it doesn't put me in a position where I'm wishing they would leave.
Why would you be stuck outside? Are you meaning you went over to their house and they didn't answer the door when you arrived? I just leave if they don't answer in a couple minutes.
Also my daughter doesn't go to school anymore, she is an adult.
I guess some clarification is in order.Why would you be stuck outside? Are you meaning you went over to their house and they didn't answer the door when you arrived? I just leave if they don't answer in a couple minutes.
let me tell you about one time this happened where it wasn't as simple as that.
I was visiting a friend who lives about 30 mi away.
I didn't have a vehicle at the time and they suddenly had to go out so their younger brother was supposed to let me in.
he didn't... and I'd taken the bus. I wasn't simply going to head back after making it all that way and so ended up waiting outside for an hour.
had I known then what I know now? I'd simply have let myself into the apartment complex and knocked on the apt door.... seeing as they're fairly easy to bypass.
back then I social engineered my way into the lobby and waited... after having waited half an hour outside... it was snowing.
it's a rare occurrence but it does happen sometimes.
Then you have what happened most recently... a friend was out of town but had some packages they needed picked up. I've let them into their apt before when they've locked themselves out so they asked me to pick the lock and drop off the packages inside then lock up when I left.
outside of specific circumstances though there are times I've considered it if I was invited and expected.
Ah that makes sense. Yeah taking a bus 30 miles away for them not to be there has got to be pretty frustrating. If you were in your car then it would have been a lot easier to just go home, or maybe drive to a nearby restaurant and have a meal to kill time until they got back home.
Just try to understand what the rules to that place.. what we think is ok, someone may not see this the same as we do
A nice start is before you enter ask if need to remove shoes ... if offer you something try to put that in your mouth and not half on the floor like a little kid lol happen to me all the time accident its ok
don't complain if you do not like something in the house because it is uncomfortable for you ... you don't live there
ok i think i will stop ........ seems i turn this what my visitors do that i don't like
A nice start is before you enter ask if need to remove shoes ... if offer you something try to put that in your mouth and not half on the floor like a little kid lol happen to me all the time accident its ok
don't complain if you do not like something in the house because it is uncomfortable for you ... you don't live there
ok i think i will stop ........ seems i turn this what my visitors do that i don't like
Be respectful, polite, and clean. Don't wear out my welcome by staying over too long.
Golden rule in reverse.
Don't do unto others, that I wouldn't want done to me.
And keep my visits very short, as I prefer to be in my own home anyway..
Don't do unto others, that I wouldn't want done to me.
And keep my visits very short, as I prefer to be in my own home anyway..
Good etiquette is that if you tell me "make yourself at home" best believe I will. Hope you have Wi-Fi, and pizza in the freezer or I'm gonna be a hangry guest.
Oh no; what I mean is, "Here's the fridge, so get up & get your own ice water."Good etiquette is that if you tell me "make yourself at home" best believe I will. Hope you have Wi-Fi, and pizza in the freezer or I'm gonna be a hangry guest.
