Ask the Girls

[Nebulous]

Well I don't get dressed up anyway most of the time.

Some of you dont.. Some of you go all out and try to look as fine as possible at all times.. Then transform into a lazy looking slob once you have hooked your man.

 

[Kaczynski]

That's so mean! By then he'd be stuck with you. And if he dumped her then it would seem superficial and shallow. Which is ironic.

 

[Nebulous]

Im not saying break up with someone because they look like a lazy slob.. But if you dressed nice for your man at one point, you should continue to do so once in a while. Its like a bait and switch sort of thing.

 

[Princess]

Yeah--there are times that I don't look my best. There's times he doesn't look his best. But we do try.

I think it's a comfort level. When you are first with someone, you do your best to impress them--whether it's a girl looking her best all the time--or a guy using his best manners all the time. (When is the last time you held the car door open for a girl that you were in a long term relationship with?)

After you become comfortable with them--you realize that he isn't going to leave you if you aren't always wearing makeup, and he realizes that you aren't going to leave him if he burps after drinking a beer.

 

[Corleone]

If you have the impression a girl has feelings for you, but you're not exactly sure, but you do not want to hurt her, you want to remain friends, but you do not want to lead her on and hurt her with rejection, how do you do that?

 

[Princess]

Wrong thread Jones....

I don't think I've ever had feelings for a girl--not like you mean anyway.

 

[Xtron]

@Princess - It's a real shame most girls feel that way =/



Another question, as you say, girls are self-conscious about their looks because they think it better themselves from everyone else if they're prettier, so how come I'm not allowed to say a girl looks pretty, they always seem to receive those types of comments as me trying to get something out of them but I'm just trying to be nice!! it seems that way anyhow. I don't care when girls say things like that to me, I think it's sweet, but then again there are a lot of guys that set the standard, and girls automatically think all the guys are just trying to get something out of them when it's not always true =/

@the army thing, I still think the men should protect the women when it comes to actual war. Not because I don't think they can do it, just because thats the mans job, to keep the women & children safe, and happy no matter what. Even though the world is twisted now and it's not like that anymore, it will always be for me. I'm christian so it's how it goes for me.

 

[Princess]

Lots of girls have trouble taking compliments. And they are pretty jaded at a young age--hence the what are you really after? when getting a compliment. Just show them that you don't have an ulterior motive and they'll soon feel more comfortable around you and accept your comments at face value.



@ the army thing--Daddy was like you. He saw no reason why women couldn't be in support positions in the service, but front-line combat--he had a real problem with. He felt that men would jepardize the mission for the sake of saving the girl.

And my best friend is like you--it's totally foreign to his nature to NOT protect a female. He has been known to stay with ladies (that he didn't know) when their car had broken down in a rough neighborhood, and that sort of thing. You may not be appreciated for that attitude now--but when you get a tad bit older you will be.

 

[Nebulous]

Why are some of you so emotional and overreact to everything?

 

[Princess]

Stop picking on my Nebulous, I just may cry.....

I don't know--hubby says I can cry at the drop of a hat--I guess we're just wired differently than guys.

 

[ForumAddict]

What do you girls look for in a man?

 

[Princess]

All girls look for something different.

I was attracted to a nice voice (we met over the phone) a sense of humor (as warped and twisted as my own) lots of things in common.

Then when we met, I liked his eyes, his laugh, and his broad shoulders.

 

[Xtron]

You have good answers Princess

 

[Princess]

Thanks hon. Been there and done most of the stuff that you guys are asking about.

 

[Corleone]

What are some turn offs in a man?

 

[Nebulous]

Why do some of you act like you have testosterone but you really dont. Lol

 

[Bishop]

lol Nebulous is on a role with his questions. XD

 

[Xtron]

^ Well they have more estrogen then testosterone, but I know what you mean =P

 

[Princess]

Wow--soooo many questions....

OK--Michael--Turn offs in a man--sloppy. Not just in dress, but in hygiene. That's the biggest thing. Crudity. There's a time and place for crude--use some common sense. Anything to the extreme--don't be too vain, or too possessive, or too angry, or too---well, you get the point. Some of those traits are nice, but not when taken to the extreme.



Nebulous--Some girls are so afraid of being taken advantage of, that they lose site of the fact that they don't have to be a bitch to be assertive. I think you'll agree I'm pretty assertive, but I'm not a bitch.

 

[Corleone]

Would you be turned off immediately if a guy had a hole in his pants on your first date? Not that I had a first date with a girl and somehow had a hole in the back of my shorts from ironing them the night before or anything like such that would have happened...