Married, change ur name?

[Nebulous]

It dont matter as your SSN# would be attached to your new name hehehe. lol Nice try though lol

 

[ellyfant]

I did change my name when I got married, only because it was the traditional thing to do then.
We're divorced now and I've always said I would never marry again, but if I did (yeah I know contradictory) I would keep my own name.
It's like you become someone else's property having their name. Nope not for me.

 

[Nebulous]

It's like you become someone else's property having their name. Nope not for me.

Well some people do it just so their family unit can all have the same last name. Husband, wife and however many children they have all have one last name. They can be referred to as the <insert last name> family. Promotes a sense of solidarity in a family unit I suppose. Also avoids confusing situations.

 

[ellyfant]

Well some people do it just so their family unit can all have the same last name. Husband, wife and however many children they have all have one last name. They can be referred to as the <insert last name> family. Promotes a sense of solidarity in a family unit I suppose. Also avoids confusing situations.

Maybe that's the reason, but my son is married with two children and his wife kept her name and they agreed that the kids would take his name. There doesn't seem to be any confusion for them.

 

[Nebulous]

Maybe that's the reason, but my son is married with two children and his wife kept her name and they agreed that the kids would take his name. There doesn't seem to be any confusion for them.

Me thinks mom might run into extra questions and maybe being asked to prove who she is when picking her children up from school or from activities in the future since she has a different last name, but thats not really a huge deal.

 

[ellyfant]

Me thinks mom might run into extra questions and maybe being asked to prove who she is when picking her children up from school or from activities in the future since she has a different last name, but thats not really a huge deal.

No that won't happen because she teaches at the school where the girls go

 

[Nebulous]

No that won't happen because she teaches at the school where the girls go

Thats cool. Teaching is such a noble profession.

 

[brad.smith]

Me too.
But...hindsight.
I have been married three times; thus, four different last names. Before the Covid thing, I decided to go ahead and get the state enhanced drivers license....in the event of simplifying travel to Canada and/or Mexico.
You would not believe the HOOPS! They wanted documents of all of the marriage licenses and divorce decrees. And would not accept the copy I had of the current marriage license issued and legally stamped by the judge because that county had changed their form to a more computer-friendly version.
At that point I somehow managed to hold in my internal explosion, but just said something like, "Dang! It would be easier to get a bloomin' passport!" The clerk to my surprise agreed.
So, that's what I did & it was entirely easy.....basically get your picture taken & pay your $$.

And the point being....if I had known how screwed up the legal system can be, I would have just simply kept my maiden name. It was the name changes that "got" me there.

Yes Name changes does tend to make things a bit of a hassle, and they wont accept laminated Birth certificates either, I lost my DL and ended up getting mine renewed since i was within the 1 year mark before it expires. I see why this crap happens but at the same time its such a pain in the ass i mean what they think you are gonna go renew a dead persons DL? lol theirs so much red tape not really that easy, but what do i know I just work, pay taxes, like most of everyone so meh.

 

[Draconis]

I'd ask what her name is but I don't want to doxx anyone. Are you guys going to get married soon?

We are planning on it, but no rush. Next year is 18 years for us.

 

[brad.smith]

Me too.
But...hindsight.
I have been married three times; thus, four different last names. Before the Covid thing, I decided to go ahead and get the state enhanced drivers license....in the event of simplifying travel to Canada and/or Mexico.
You would not believe the HOOPS! They wanted documents of all of the marriage licenses and divorce decrees. And would not accept the copy I had of the current marriage license issued and legally stamped by the judge because that county had changed their form to a more computer-friendly version.
At that point I somehow managed to hold in my internal explosion, but just said something like, "Dang! It would be easier to get a bloomin' passport!" The clerk to my surprise agreed.
So, that's what I did & it was entirely easy.....basically get your picture taken & pay your $$.

And the point being....if I had known how screwed up the legal system can be, I would have just simply kept my maiden name. It was the name changes that "got" me there.

And yes you have to Hold on to your Marriage Certificate with your life or any document because of all of the BS to get replaced is unreal. Whats a pain is changing everything back again DL, SS Card, If you own a house "Which I do" all of the different Credit card/loan companies etc. UGH not willing to go through all of that BLAH

 

[MamaFrankie]

Thats cool. Teaching is such a noble profession.

My avatar's parents were teachers. His father is a retired principal, still alive at 97.

 

[ElegantAura]

I think best everyone keep theirs
I guess been originally from a country that by law all women must keep their birth surname at marriage .
and actually i see this as better but most women in Australia they don't .

 

[MrDawn]

I was going to change my name this time but my wife decided I should keep it since my kids have that last name. She decided to change hers instead.