My chances of getting a girlfriend are nill.

[James]

I don't believe I'll really have a chance at getting a girlfriend..



I pretty know the advantages and disadvantages, along with the advantages of refraining from dating(Judging from I read in a Christian book, my mom gave me, dating looks like a hassle).



(Honest Psychological Overview)



Well I like video games, especially doujinsoft games(Japanese fanmade and independent games) and I like RPGs too, but I'm knowledgable about them, maybe too much.



I'm also a fan of anime(Some of my choices, have been called weird by peers, e.g.-FLCL,Elfen Lied,Chobits) and I have a goal of making a machine that makes anime and video game characters real, along with engineering a type of a surgery that gives girls animal ears and tails :hehe:



Plus I have a few anime/video game girls that I have a crush on.



A main factor is my interest in the horror genre..



I'm the guy who loved Halloween(the original one) and found Psycho confusing at first(shower scene doesn't trump the scene in The Shining with the old lady in my mindset)



I also like certain horror tropes(like the Glasgow smile and a couple of others I'd rather not mention..)



I seemingly do like the idea of blood and gore and when three of the things I loved(two pets and my mother)died this year, I never grieved.



Apologies, though, I must be too redundant or I'm rambling..



I also act in a different manner,gender wise..



When I am around fellow brothers(or guys), I act normal and I'm myself.



Around girls, I go neutral, to say in the least..



I act as if I'm talking to a business person and I'm more along the lines of being a serious person, as I don't insult or act perverted..



I act as a shell of my ownself..



Except I have a more twisted view of horror..



I find the idea of sex effective in horror, especially psychological horror.



My view of horror has been affected by Silent Hill,Psycho and various other horror productions, most recently, Silence of the Lambs.



I also seem to go a bit crazy late at night(I yell at my plush catfish saying STUFFED CATFISH.



And my acting neutral basically means I sorta evade social situations.



Basically I am a Sheldon of society.





In front of other guys, I'm normal and upbeat and normal.(And humorous to boot.)



In front of girls, I act like a emotionless robot, I prefer not to open up either



And I see myself as the negative guy who sits in the back corner, that no one cares about and in that situation, I can think of ideas for my novel and stuff.



I evade most social situations and I prefer isolation with much few contact with anyone other than family and friends.



And pretty much, I don't have a car and stuff, so I still doubt a girl would want to ask me out now.



But I'm weird.



Wednesday at youth group I imitated a crawling zombie and I went insane,running around and eventually hiding in a corner, when the room was full of girls(Too overwhelming.)

 

[Nebulous]

Ive met plenty of girls who are into all the same things you are so don't think your interests will scare people off. You also dont need to be Mr. Personality for a girl to like you. Some are attracted to the quiet reserved types.

 

[James]

So.. I should just stop looking and socialize with people(except girls) and achieve my goals?

 

[The Dragon Master]

So.. I should just stop looking and socialize with people(except girls) and achieve my goals?

Yep

 

[Jazzy]

I don't have a car and stuff, so I still doubt a girl would want to ask me out now.

Most girls are waiting for the guy to ask them out. Is there a girl that you're interested in enough to ask her out?

But I'm weird.

I don't think you're weird at all. Reading what you wrote was fascinating and you sound like a very interesting guy.

Wednesday at youth group I imitated a crawling zombie and I went insane,running around and eventually hiding in a corner, when the room was full of girls(Too overwhelming.)

Now this sounds funny to me and I would have been laughing. May I ask how the girls in the room reacted?

 

[James]

They thought I was weird. In fact, one girl said to me Hey, girls are people too.



I'm just gonna for the girls to ask me out.

 

[Jazzy]

Good idea and in the meantime you can concentrate on achieving your goals.



[font=tahoma, geneva, sans-serif]Also wanted to tell you that it's nice to see you back here!

 

[Raven]

So.. I should just stop looking and socialize with people(except girls) and achieve my goals?

Yes!



In my expirence of looking for a guy I end up with arseholes and am treated like dirt or guys just arent interested. Don't look and let someone come to you. Will take a while but don't give up on it.

 

[Corleone]

First of all, you need to enjoy being single. There is nothing wrong with being single. I've been in one serious relationship, and I must say, I'm enjoying being single at the moment. A lot of people have this distorted idea in their head that it is necessary to have a partner to be happy. That is not true. There is nothing wrong with having a girlfriend, but you need to understand that you do not need one to be happy. You need to enjoy life and pursue your own interests, versus trying to adapt to others in hopes of getting a girlfriend. A suitable partner for you is one who shares similar interests and will like you for who you are. The biggest piece of advice I'd give to you is to just stay true to yourself no matter what. No matter how beautiful and nice a girl may be, never change for anyone if that's not who you really are.



As previously mentioned, I've been in one serious relationship. It lasted almost three months before it ended. However, we had been going on dates for at least 2 or 3 months. Nearly half a year I spent with this girl. She became my identity and I became obsessed with our relationship to the point I was disregarding my own interests and began pursing hers. It became all about her all the time. That is not how a relationship works. It needs to be about even, so that's why it's so important that you both share similar interests. I'm not saying you have to be EXACTLY alike, but you want someone who is going to like you for you. That's very important.



I never try to be someone I'm not, because that's just not who I am. I am Josh, and I'm not about going to change for anyone or anything. You need to continue in your interests and pursue your goals and just enjoy life. If the right one comes along sweep her up, but until then, you need to enjoy life as is. My ex made me extremely happy, but looking back, I blew off a lot of friends to hang out with her, and I stopped pursing my own personal interests and goals. I enjoy playing xbox 360, browsing random YouTube videos, watching football, and going out with friends. I stopped doing all of the above for my ex, because I wanted to spend all my time doing what she wanted to do so I could please her. That is a nice gesture, but that's not going to work in the real world. Relationships are not Romeo and Juliet. If the right girl comes along, like I said, sweep her up and give it a try, and if things work out, great! If not, o'well and move on with your life, because no girl is worth getting all jacked out of shape over because that girl is obviously not the one that's right for you.



To sum it up, there's a girl out there that shares similar interests as you and she'll make you a happy guy. Hardest part is not finding her, but waiting for her to show up in your life. I never look for a relationship, because I know if I meet the right one and I see potential, I'll give it a shot and if it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. You can't be afraid of rejection, you have to be willing to get turned down and move on. Wait for the right one. In the meantime, enjoy your life and singlehood!

 

[Fatal Dawn]

Very well said MrJ!

 

[Evil Eye]

You sound pretty normal. A bit introverted, but quite normal.

Besides, there are a lot of people in this world, there's bound to be someone out there for you.

Relationships are not Romeo and Juliet.

We'd be extinct!

 

[James]

So..



If I don't talk to girls, be semi-social and continue being a silent,mysterious guy, I might have a chance?



Or when I'm older.. I could try speed-dating...



Of course I'm not really normal, I feel urges to take a knife and drag it across a wall,take a knife and stab a table or think up disturbing(and occasionally sexualized)monster ideas..



And I don't there would a girl interested in me at youth group..



My friend told me that it's easier to get a girlfriend at college, but I don't know..

 

[Fatal Dawn]

Be confident with who you are - the good and the bad. From my experience girls are not all looking for the perfect guy - Nobody is perfect. Normal is just perception, so don't try to force yourself into a mold that doesn't fit you.



If you ask me you are indeed normal. It's normal to have urges, or to feel a certain way. It is absolutely normal to express one's feelings in the way you are doing now by talking about it. I have counseled people that are going through what you are going through and you know what ... in some time they come back to me and tell me they have met someone. Someone who saw something in them that they didn't see in themselves. You will know when you have found this person in your life. And it will begin to make sense to you - why you have felt what you are feeling now.



Also, as people have been telling you here, you don't need to go out looking for love because you might find it in all the wrong places. It's true - even if you don't believe at first; in time opportunities will come and you will find the right person. Just be patient and be confident..

 

[Evil Eye]

If I don't talk to girls, be semi-social and continue being a silent,mysterious guy, I might have a chance?

There's always a chance.

While you might change yourself and thus get a girl, you have to ask yourself if it's worth it. You'd be losing yourself.

 

[DrLeftover]

From this far out....



My god, to have such problems.



Wanna change lives?

 

[James]

^

Obvious sarcasm.



But until I'm set, I'm thinking of rejecting anyone who asks me out..



My mind should be set on schoolwork,writing my novels,getting a driver's license,getting a job and my own place.



I'll continue being Silent,mysterious guy, because it's foolproof girl repellent and I should only socialize with fellow guys.



Speed-dating?



Ain't gonna call back.

 

[DrLeftover]

Actually it wasn't all that sarcastic.



When I was there, I was you.



In the end, it wasn't so bad after all.



And your to do list is pretty close to my own.



Except on my list was getting a car that didn't catch fire or have major parts fall off while I was driving it. (still is)



Come to think of it, with certain minor modifications, that list is essentially what I'm doing Now! Its just those few minor changes are a lot more expensive than what they replace.

 

[Crusader]

It's the same with me. No one I like seems to give a damn about me.

 

[James]

Actually it wasn't all that sarcastic.



When I was there, I was you.



In the end, it wasn't so bad after all.



And your to do list is pretty close to my own.



Except on my list was getting a car that didn't catch fire or have major parts fall off while I was driving it. (still is)



Come to think of it, with certain minor modifications, that list is essentially what I'm doing Now! Its just those few minor changes are a lot more expensive than what they replace.

I'm not sure what you mean..

 

[Corleone]

I'm not sure what you mean..

From my understand, he's saying that when he was your age and in your situation, he thought not having a girlfriend was the end of the world too. He thought it was horrible to be alone at your age, but now that he's older and looking back on it all, it really wasn't that big of a deal. Sure, a girlfriend is nice to have, but you don't need one growing up and when you have so many years ahead of you, it's best you enjoy your singlehood because once you meet the right one and get married, and potentially have kids, you'll spend the rest of your life pleasing your wife and raising your kids.



As far as talking to women, don't profile them due to their gender and refuse to talk to them. I disagree with everyone above who claims you should ignore women and not talk to them entirely to prevent a relationship from happening just because you need to be single to focus more so on life itself. That's not rational and I think you should be open-minded when it comes to talking to girls. Don't worry so much about getting into a relationship, just enjoy talking to whoever and whatever happens happens. Let life be the boat and let the waves do their things.