My chances of getting a girlfriend are nill.

[Bluezone777]

I honestly don't think even HE knows what he wants hence all the mixed signals. You gotta know what you want out of life as no one else can do it for you. Once you done that then people here and elsewhere can help you achieve whatever goals you want to achieve.

 

[DrLeftover]

Hey, I've got an idea.



Instead of overthinking everything and making plans and all that.



And worrying yourself sick into the bargain.



Just be yourself and do what you do and see what happens in the future.

 

[James]

Hey, I've got an idea.



Instead of overthinking everything and making plans and all that.



And worrying yourself sick into the bargain.



Just be yourself and do what you do and see what happens in the future.

So basically..



Being myself + Smiling most of time + Not even seeking out girls to ask out = Girlfriend get?

 

[Evil Eye]

Being myself + Smiling most of time + Not even seeking out girls to ask out = Girlfriend get?

As long as you don't run and hide at each girl, yes.

 

[Jazzy]

So basically..



Being myself + Smiling most of time + Not even seeking out girls to ask out = Girlfriend get?

Being myself = girlfriend get.

 

[Bryd0]

My chances of getting a girlfriend is nil also but I'm not bothered about it. Besides, you don't always need a girlfriend in your life unless it's someone you really like and trust. I think it's best to stay single though, in my point of view. Don't let this bother you too much.

 

[Crusader]

Being myself = girlfriend get.

Hasn't worked for me.

 

[Jazzy]

Hasn't worked for me.

Yet.

 

[James]

...Yet?



I don't why we all have to wait..



Whatever, any girl that asks me out, I'm gonna act weird.



Regardless, I can adapt to make any girl think I'm too weird.

 

[Skillet]

You're just going to make this a Self-fulfilling prophecy like Fatal Dawn has said. If you keep shutting these people down, you aren't going to get anywhere. I can guarantee you that.

 

[James]

Not going to get anywhere?



I'll still have a job,a car and a place to live in the future, along with designing games and writing novels.



Fine.. If a girl asks me out, I'll accept her offer.



But don't expect me to be calling much.

 

[DrLeftover]

Dude.



Take a breath.



You have time to work through all this stuff.

 

[Jazzy]

Why do you even want a girlfriend? You're obviously not ready for such a relationship but yet you keep harping on it.

 

[James]

Because culture pressures us with a bunch of crap.



Plus, all of my friends have girlfriends, hell one of them is having luck with the girls, in college.



But I'm the odd one out..

 

[Jazzy]

Because culture pressures us with a bunch of crap.

Has nothing to do with culture. The only thing that can pressure you is yourself.

Plus, all of my friends have girlfriends, hell one of them is having luck with the girls, in college.

If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you jump too?

But I'm the odd one out..

Only you have control over that. You're not going to get a girl if you constantly have a negative attitude.

 

[James]

So, faking happiness and confidence is going help me succeed at getting a girlfriend?



...I'm better off waiting for androids to be made..

 

[Cranos]

So, faking happiness and confidence is going help me succeed at getting a girlfriend?



...I'm better off waiting for androids to be made..

Nope, the most that'll get you is a one night stand if you're lucky. You'll need an actual different mindset. Why don't you start by focusing on becoming content with your own life? Once you're cool with yourself and your own life, the happiness and confidence will automatically follow.

 

[Jazzy]

So, faking happiness and confidence is going help me succeed at getting a girlfriend?

When you no longer have to fake happiness and confidence, that will bring you closer any of your goals in life.

 

[James]

Well.. I'm still pondering the death of my mother and I'm letting myself down whenever I try to draw(God.. I still draw in a mediocre way..)



And I still think there is not a single girl at youth group who would like me.



Jeez, first I had some positivity in my life, planning a series of novels and trying to make a game..

Watched anime late-at-night and life was decent.



Then my mother died and shit went down the drain.



Along with her and my last guinea pig, my confidence around most things died.



Before the youth group, my life was okay, aside from a bunch of other things.



And the pressure that my mom put on me to get a g



I had pride in being the weird guy, now with my mind out of a world of my own, I feel like a outcast.



I have begun to think replaying Silent Hill 2 will be my rebirth.



Well that or doing positive things like rewatching the only romantic comedy series that I ever like, CLAMP's Chobits.



But I digress..



I don't know what is holding me together, to drag on further in this chaotic, depressing world.



Everyone acts like they are filled with joy, in reality.. it's all a illusion.



Falsified happiness.

 

[Jazzy]

Do you have anyone other than us you can talk to? I'm sorry for I feel like you are in great pain but I have no way of helping you. If I could just say one thing it would be to seek some professional help.