My chances of getting a girlfriend are nill.

[James]

Hmm.. You're right..



But culture(and even my now-three months dead mother) has and is pressuring me to get obe.





Hell my mother even told me crap like Guys with glasses don't get girlfriends and one of the only reasons she got me into church and youth group was to get a girlfriend.



And she also tried to change me too. Forcing me to wear contact lens and such.



I don't fricking care.



Now that she's dead, I can remain myself.(A cynical thought, but nonetheless..)

 

[Cranos]

I thought that way for a while when I was younger. What got me out of it was actually socializing with girls. Not in the desperate I need a girlfriend way, but just normal interaction. When I made some female friends, I realised that talking to girls isn't hard at all and that they have the weirdest kind of interests as well.



I agree when people say don't look for a girlfriend. That's not the same as not socializing with women though. And when the time comes that you meet someone you like, don't be afraid to ask her out.

 

[Corleone]

I agree when people say don't look for a girlfriend. That's not the same as not socializing with women though. And when the time comes that you meet someone you like, don't be afraid to ask her out.

^^ Thoughts exactly.

 

[James]

Well, I don't know when that'll be..



On another note..



Apperantly, a girl is interested in me..



Well this whole conundrum started earlier this month, where a girl text messaged me for no reason at all and she isn't even in the youth group..



And well, apperantly after much replies to the text messages, she got interested in me(I haven't mentioned anything about liking horror or anime, just video games.).



Now she's tried to call me a few times and I dunno what to do..



Although, I thought of inviting her to the Christmas party at youth group.



She says she's 15 and judging from a picture she sent(I asked.), she doesn't really look too attractive and she says only plays a little bit of video games..

 

[Cranos]

Just do whatever you want, it's your life.

 

[Skillet]

Exactly. You're young. There are many girls out there. You just have to wait, and you will find an amazing one

 

[James]

Well, apperantly it was a prissy 12-year old who lied about her age,I was talking to all along...



That sucks.



I doubt The one is at the youth group, though...

 

[Jazzy]

Well, apperantly it was a prissy 12-year old who lied about her age,I was talking to all along...

How did you find out she was only 12 and do you have any clue how she found out how to contact you?

That sucks.

Sure does especially when people pretend to be someone or something they aren't.

I doubt The one is at the youth group, though...

Never know unless you are interested in one of them and ask them to the Christmas dance.

 

[James]

There isn't going to be a Christmas dance

;



On second thought, an idea I have is..



When I'm in college, don't talk to any girls and make friends with fellow guys.

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-> If invited to party..

*Don't talk to girls at all, unless necessary.

*If permitted, find a piano in said house and check all of the keys(I hate out-of-tune pianos)

-If no piano, just evade socializing with girls and leave at some point.

**Play that piano(bring sheet music)

-Decision?

*If girls crowd around..

-Stop playing and hide somewhere..

Or

-Continue playing and then leave and sit somewhere else.



(Suddenly.. my presence has known.)

-I don't know what the hell else to do.

-Socialize with fellow guys, end conversation or ask if we can continue it elsewhere, if a girl tries to join in.. or be very weird.

-Leave the party and ask if another party can be done at my place.

 

[Cranos]

0_o Just talk to them. It's not hard at all. Sooner or later you'll have to learn to get out of your comfort zone once in a while. Might as well start there.

 

[Jazzy]

What are you going to do when you get a job and girls are your co-workers? Perhaps your boss is a female. What then?

 

[James]

0_o Just talk to them. It's not hard at all. Sooner or later you'll have to learn to get out of your comfort zone once in a while. Might as well start there.

I will only talk with girls when necessary.



@Jazzy:If my boss is female, only going to act strictly professional.

Co-workers are female?

Ignore and do job. Only speak when necessary.

Asks me to join her for dinner? Don't open up very much. Avoid pursuing relationship.

Social Situation and girl asks me out?



Decline.

 

[Jazzy]

Then the title of your thread is 100% correct.

 

[James]

It's part of a main objective.



Women? They're are just a distraction to the main mission of obeying the queen bee.



Specifically I can't be forced into a relationship, right?

 

[Corleone]

Wait... I'm confused do you want a girlfriend or not?

 

[Cranos]

It's part of a main objective.



Women? They're are just a distraction to the main mission of obeying the queen bee.



Specifically I can't be forced into a relationship, right?

What main objective? I thought you wanted a girl? 0_o Because if you want to end up alone, go for it. It's your life...

 

[Skillet]

Wait... I'm confused do you want a girlfriend or not?

Me too.

 

[Bluezone777]

The problem I see is he's such a negative thinker. He seems to walk into everything with the expectation that the worse is going to happen and nothing pushes people away faster then someone with a negative attitude and outlook on everything. Just go into it with no expectations and it will eventually happen. You would be surprised at how many good things can happen when you least expect them to. I imagine a lot of relationships are made when no one expected it to happen. You just have to think positive and enjoy yourself wherever you are.

 

[Jazzy]

Wait... I'm confused do you want a girlfriend or not?

That makes three of us who are confused!

 

[Fatal Dawn]

The problem I see is he's such a negative thinker. He seems to walk into everything with the expectation that the worse is going to happen and nothing pushes people away faster then someone with a negative attitude and outlook on everything. Just go into it with no expectations and it will eventually happen. You would be surprised at how many good things can happen when you least expect them to. I imagine a lot of relationships are made when no one expected it to happen. You just have to think positive and enjoy yourself wherever you are.

Exactly.



Self-fulfilling prophecy. Everyone here could keep telling you that there is hope for getting a gf, but if you don't keep a positive mind you will make it a reality for yourself.